this blog is dead. just to touch up :p - people with the good stuff ? made or born with it ?

it just pops into my mind whilst studying marketing. there's just so many luxurious stuff and artists. artist or whoever , made or they're born with it? like the leadership thingy people ask.

i feel like all these are being made. take for a person who can't sing and decides to get famous. one good example , mr.william hung. alright, maybe its just for fun. or a person who can sing. but does it to get famous or to get on stage. why? is it very important that one to be famous? i've hear people say "we do this for a 'good purpose' ." and miraculously they turn out to be judgemental . how can it be good when you yourself are siding and being bias. okay, maybe its for its your own good. but necessary to lash out like that ?

maybe not major jobs. this guy i know.. well i dunno . maybe he's just posting stuff to be 'out of the ordinary' . like cute kawaii gals in bikinis and big boob and say 'guys enjoy' . well. its nothing for me. but part of me feel its like to get people to read his blog. guys.

this world is getting more and more complicated. studying human communication give me the impression that people are always having hidden agenda whether intentionally or not. the world is getting more and more scarier. its no longer a safe place to stay in.

attitudes can really show what you are. in my essay i wrote. only the person himself know what they are. they can enjoy self denial as much as they want. but they know that, well, they are what and what.

my topic, made or born with it. with the people of this century, don't hope to get them borned with it. coz we're getting more and more selfish and greedy. we no longer able to see the joy and passion of doing something or anything anymore. its all covered with the devils work.

*magdeline*

Talking in the public is the most scaring thing...:P

Everyone will feel scared while he or she heard that " PUBLIC SPEAKING" included me, too. i will share that why i scared talking in the public. First, i feel that i am not good enough in my speaking skills. Speaking skills are like the pronounciation, grammar, tone and so forth; this all are important in speaking. Besides, i can speak clearly and confident when i am practicing the speech myself. Yet, when i am facing to the audience, i cannot do it, because i think that someone may not agree with me or may think that i am so stupid. I also not confident even though i talk to my friends or families. I am so scared and not really like people to criticism me. They can give suggestions but it is nor criticism.

Though i have learnt the skills of speaking, i also cannot do it. But i will try my best to do it and do more practice. In addition, i have another reason that i scared about public speaking. That is, my thinking skills is not really good. I have to do things slowly and i will get it and understand it. So, some people dislike this kind of behaviors and they may think i am stupid. Thus, life is just like this, we have to come through different kinds of challenge. Everything we want, we must really effort on it. Then, our dream may come true. :P..


Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
12/07/09 ( Sun)

judging

we never realize that we actually live our whole life by judging each other .. we judge what a person is like from the rough surface, we judge oin a person on how they act, we judge on a person on how they dress .. life is unfair .. why is it always like that ? we like to judge people but when people do it back to us , we get so touchy and emotional.



why do people like to judge ? is this what the world is made of ? judging people ? it is tied so deeply in us that we can't tear it away from us ...



we compare ourselves with the millions of people. what do we get ? we think highly of ourselves or the people around us when compared to others. no matter in terms of attitude, looks, status, clothes, anything under the sun.



why has human gone so complicated ? we deny that we don't do it. but . ARE YOU SURE ? ask yourself whether u really don't do it ?



*magdeline*

Group work..

I quite enjoy working in group work. Working in a group is better than working in individual. Of course, group work also has its good and bad. You may get more ideas and suggestions or comments when you are working in a group. Besides, you can learn the way you interact in a group, co-operation, leadership, responsible,and etc. This all values are very important because when you are working in a society, you must face many different kind of problems and you may know how to solve it. You don't just wait the problems and solve itself.

In college life, students almost get individual assignment. It occasionally works in a group, because teachers find out that students work in a group, they may somebody do not do the work. Therefore, it is not fair for the group members and others. In contrast, in high school life, students usually work as a group. This is because it is easy and fast to teachers. Teachers do not need to waste time in all that things because they think exam..exam is more important than working in a group. Therefore, this kind of attitudes may lead students have a bad attitudes and they give all the works to 1 person. :)


Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
11/07/09 (SAt)

Communication does not have U-turn!

Communication does not have U-turn, it means that once you talk some thing rude to another parties, it cannot take it back or go back to the original one. So, we must always bare in mind that think carefully whether this word or phrase is hurted someone. If the words or phrases is hurted someone, we better keep our mouth shut. For example, when you are driving in the highway,suddenly, you go to the wrong way and then you try your best to find a road to U-turn. So, driving on the road still have another way to go but communiation does not have this choices.

Be a good communicator must be always think before speak out your words. Every words in the conversation is very important. Even though the whole sentences is not interesting, if you have one wrong then it will make another party unhappy and end up with conflicts.

I have a experience that i made my mom unhappy. This incident was happened when i was 8 years old. I accompanied my mom to go to her friend's office. Then, when we reached my mom's friend office, we searched for parking space. After that, my mom saw a parking space over the right hand side. So, she drove to the right hand side,of course. After that, a guard told my mom that this place is for officer to park, then, i said something foul to that guard. My mom straight a way scold me and warned me. She said that if i said something rude, she will not give me pocketmoney. I don't say something rude from that time until now onward. :)
LAstly, we must always careful the word or phrases that we use while communicating!


Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
05/07/09 (Sun)

Songs..!

A song....a antiphonal singing...it is also a interpersonal communication! Because of 2 person are involve in the songs...Singing a song is a type of communication, but this communication is using in singing, we sing our feelings, our ideas, our bias to others people and etc. Some of the people do not know how to express their feelings, then they will use the sing method to express their feelings or emotions. I think that if you hate someone, angry someone or other things that make you feel blue or whatever, you can actually use sing to express your feeling and you won't directly hurt that person who you hate and etc. One of the chinese song is really cool. The lyrics is about a girl and a boy are quarrelling by using sing.

Besides, singing can be a interpersonal communication;so what other things can be interpersonal communication,too? I could say that we always do interpersonal communication everyday such as talk to parents, friends, spouses, animals and so forth. We seldom say out something to our self but we always talk in the heart ourselves. Hehe... If you talk to yourself, others may think that " This person is abnormal or something wrong in his or her mind. :P


Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
02/07/09 (Thrus)

coraline

alright , this show isn't out yet , but i got it !

tittle : Coraline

played by : dakota fanning , teri hatcher (my favourite) and so on ..

alright this show is basically started when coraline shifted to her new house together with her parents .. being the only child , she's often lonely and tries to get her parent's attention which sadly , the parents were busy publishing some gardening book. while exploring the house , coraline found a door against the wall but its covered up with bricks .. but in the middle of the night , there were mouse to give her a "wake up call" .. and ran towards that tiny door. that's how coraline found the "magic" of the dorr for it links it to another world which i call "the button world".. she had another mother and father there .. and they treated her really good .. well that's because the other mother wanted her as a child ..

condition was .... she has to sew ...... button eyes .... coraline was terrified ... she couldn't escape .. well she did but her real parents got taken instead ! so she has to go back there and safe her parents !

the part that touch me was when she lost her parent .. she was alone at home which was a big house .. it came to me that loneliness can actually kill ! not to mention she doesn't have any siblings

which also reminds me bout my mum .. she's alone at home .. i can pretty well feel her loneliness coz im usually the one that talk to her and yell her name in the house just to irritate her ... all the lil memories .. now that im not at home , im sure my mum is alone while eating , sleeping .. which i always do this 2 with her .. my dad ? no dad .. divorcee .. poor mum ... i miss her .. can't wait to go back.

*magdeline*

finally finish mid-term. :)
Although i don't know what to write now, but i still have to think something to write. :P! okay, talk about dancing!

let's me briefly introduction my class history. My class was 5AJ. Besides, i wanted to tell u all that 4AJ and 5AJ had a history that is both of them always became champion in the singing competition every year. Therefore, our class also have to put more effort to win the 1st prize.

The process during the preparation.....

Our class had a queen dancer; she likes to act, sing and dance very much. Therefore, she led all her classmates. First of all, she had chosen a song " Upside down" ! Then, all of us started to practice this song. During the process, some of the people were not cooperating with her. Therefore, she just use some silly method to make them cooperate. Besides, she also had told us that if we all didn't cooperate, she won't teach us anymore. Then, we all just became good boy and good girl and listen her instruction. After that finish practice the song, she started to teach us the dance. This dance is couple dance, so she has already divided us to a group. Then, of course, couple dance must cooperate with another partner. So, i and a boy a group. I and him really discuss that if this things happen how we solve it. Thus, we must have a signal that others don't know. This one may be is our interpersonal communication to each other. It also can be a non-verbal communication.
I quite prove of her because she can create her own dance by herself. ^^! Since we all really put effort on it; finally, our class won the 1st prize. Thanks, our queen dancer! She is really patient and good-temper. Hope that she can become a queen dancer in her future. :)..HEhe!

Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
27/06/09 ( Sat)

Scenario 1: While I was eating potato chips using my thumb and index finger yesterday, watching "Twilight" with Ben, our Human Communication's lecturer passed by and waved to us. I responded, by waving back using my 3 other fingers, during which I unconciously kept my 2 last fingers, leaving my middle finger waving in the air. Imagine my panic when our lecturer stopped to stare at me and asked me what the hell was I doing. It didn't help that it took me a while to realize whatI was doing. That was unintentional.

Scenario 2: Yesterday night, I was studying while Gypsy sniffing around, looking for a patch of grass to urinate on. When she finally found her spot and started peeing, my dear Kuro came up to her, took a look at what she was doing, sniffed her, lifted up his leg, and started peeing ON her. I think that was intentional, seeing as how he likes to disturb her.

Scenario 3: Today, during Human Communications class, we had our presentation for persuasive speaking (which I hate!!! Because-I-hate-public-speaking!!!). When Jeslynn introduced her product, J-Juice, which was suppsoed to be a health drink made out of different kinds of fruits, I heard GAY Juice.

Ah well, the misunderstandings that happen to me, and my dogs.

And how do we (and me dogs) solve these conflicts? Well, for scenario 1, when my lecturer stopped to stare at me and asked me what I was doing, I told him it was a misunderstanding because I was eating potato chips (thank god), so that misunderstanding was solved through metacommunication. Whereas for the second scenario, they solved it through direct aggresion, with Gypsy immediately turning on to Kuro and started chasing him around the house to bite whatever she could get her teeth on. This is a prove that girls ARE capable of direct aggresion. Aha! And it's also prove that not ALL guys are macho and brave, as Kuro is the perfect example of a cowardly male. As for the third scenario, well, I'm not sure what way did I solve it with. What I did was tell Jeslynn what I heard, and turned it into a joke. I hope my hearing is not defective. Golly gosh, that'd be bad!!!

Thought of Human Communication so far : Thuck goes my door, while my security system HELL breaks loose.
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 1503.

Communication sometimes misunderstanding. Talk too much is not a good things!

Communication really important! We must always open out our ear and listen carefully what the second party is talking about. If not, we may easily make a mistake or do a wrong things.For instance, if you work in the big company, you must be make sure that your communication skills and listening skills is steady and good, otherwise, your boss may scold you when you make a mistake.hehe...May be you don't understand what I want to express but never mind. Therefore, we must start to learn the skills of communication with people, listening important information from people, training our speaking skills, our self-confident facing the audiences and forth. :P

On the other hand, communication sometimes may occur bad things to happen. What is the bad things? To show you this concept more clear, I give an example for that. A person orders B person to complete a important work, so A person gives an instruction to B person. B person starts to work on it. A and B are just like boss and staff. Finally, B person means the staff has completed his or her work, but the boss doesn't satisfied. Why? Boss said that " I don't order you to do this so, why you do it." Why the boss said like that because B person always tell gossips to others and some of the gossips is related to his or her boss. Here i want to tell you that his or her boss is already married. Then, B person just tell this things to everyone in the company that boss has a relationship with another women who is already married. Therefore, don't talk too much otherwise it makes things more worst. Maybe B person will fired by A person, his or her boss. :( ! Too bad! :P

Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
15/06/09 ( Mon)

Start talking again!

Omg, tomorrow is persuasive presentation, so scared! hehe! :)
Today, topic that i would like to share is related to interpersonal communication. Of course, we all know that what is interpersonal communication, just 2 people in the conversation!

In my opinion, i like to share my experiences, own story, a bit secret....with my best friend. i like to talk to her because she always give me good suggestions or comments when i faced problems. When i m down, i can talk to her and she will console me and called me don't think too much. She also said that if i always think on the negative ways, things may go worst! She asked me do not look down myself ; she said must be confident to overcome the problems. Therefore, in this short passage that i write above tell that interpersonal communication is important to all of us. Even though animals live in a zoo, the caregiver of the animals will also get 2 or 3 animals together and to accomapany the animals.
Finally, i don't know what to continue now, then i just stop here. Continue by next week! hehe..

Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
14/06/09 ( Sun)

Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious is an English word in the song from the musical film Mary Poppins.
Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch is a village somewhere in Wales. (How the hell do you even pronounce that? Lan-fair-pill-will-gill-lill-kill-bleeeh.....Gah, forget it.)

Interpersonal communication is somthing most of us come across each and everyday. Most of the time. When we talk to our friends; when we talk to our family; when we talk to people; when we talk to our dogs! (Just kidding!) The point is, interpersonal communication is something that happens everyday in our life, it's something that we humans need so that we are able to socialize with humans and lead an active social life.

In my opinion, interpersonal communication between humans aren't something that you can create in a second or a day. The forming or friendships and the trust between the two friends requires time and communication between both parties. Without communication, we can't understand one another and therefore we won't be able to get through to one another. Take for example, would you be closer to a cousin whom you see every week or a relative that you have never seen before? (I myself have had this experience countless times, especially during Chinese New Year's celebrations, when relatives from all sides come and celebrate this festive season. My dad's brothers and sisters, my mom's brothers and sisters, my mom's cousins, my dad cousins, my grandfather's brothers and sisters, my grandfather's brothers and sisters' kids, my grandfather's brothers and sisters' kids' kids......the list goes on and on. I only seem to know a mere fraction of the relatives who're present at the celebrations and dinners. Most of us would rather be engrossed with our handphones and music players rather than talking with cousins, myself being an example, as my cousins and relatives are more fluent in Chinese and not being so fluent in English, whereas I'm more fluent in English rather than Chinese, therefore creating that language barrier where we would rather stick to ourselves than go through all that trouble of communicating with someone who doesn't communicate in our preferred language.)

Interpersonal communication between friends are normally built through the time which we spend with each other in school, when we hang out with each other, through sms-es and phone calls, through internet chatting and through shared interests. Take your best friend for example, I'm sure it took some time before you and your best friends actually reached that status of being best friends. Best friends have a sense of trust and strong believe in one another and they would count on each other without hesitation and they know that they will have someone to count on when they are overcome with problems or they need someone to listen to them. I think that the friends we make during high school and primary school lasts longer than those that we make later on in life when we're working or when we're studying in university. Why is that so? Mainly because friends that we make during school days know us earlier and they know our true characteristics of how we were like before we actually matured and developed that hard shell outside the kiddy behaviour that each of us posses. They are the ones that know our true nature and characteristics, and yet they won't shun us for who we are because they are able to tolerate us after through all the years and time that we've spent together. They would put up with us when we're grumpy, or when we're down and need a shoulder to lie on, or when we get hyper and go over the moon and decide to pull them along for the fun. These friends are the friends that we should treasure for a lifetime as it isn't easy to find a friend no matter how popular one is.

Just like how a true friend told me once :

Friends are like the grass and flowers, you'll find them everywhere;

True friends however, are like four-leaf-clovers, you'll have to take the time to search for them.

Thought of Human Communication so far : Silent movie, Jenn likes.

This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 0043

To makenew friend is a process...

The first day i reached to college, that day is orientation day for new students in january intake. When i went in to the threatte, i saw a guy who same school with me when i was studying in secondary school. Yet, i didn't greet him because the first thing that he didn't see and the second thing was i was not really know him so i just found a seat to sit. Then, orientation day started at about 10am. Before lunch time, some senior took all the new students to visit college. This is the point!! A indian girl, she walked beside me, first we don't know each other. How our friendship started?? She acted her own initiative talk to me. The 1st step is the most common, of course, everybody will say "HI" or "HELLO". After that, i asked her name and asked her whether she wanted to join with me at the lunch time. Then, she said "Yes!" and she also asked my name. I won't be too longwinded so i just stop here. As a result, we all know that 1st thing to do when we meet new friend, that is, we will introduce ourselves to others.

The another case was happening in my third day in the college. My 1st class is intermediate english, i was late because the stupid bus was late. Then, i knew a girl was not talking to others so that i talked to her. Just now i said that 1st things we usually do is greeting with each other or said "hi", yet i don't do that 1st. I straight away asked her that why i didn't see you in class yesterday. Then she told me that she was late so that she didn't come to the 1st class. Then, our friendship started at that time. But right now, we don't attend the same class because we took different in our electives subject. We still keep in touch with each other such as we eat lunch together. Remember, friendship is not just simply in front of you, you must take action in it. Therefore, everything we do is a process..""PROCESS""!!


Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
(11/06/09) THRUSDAY

don't assume everyone's the same

the man told us before not to assume that everyone's the same ... well .. i let it slip off my ears and forget bout it ...

i lost a so called friend because of this.

well , it started when during a meeting , i announced that my friend's boyfriend can help my sphere to post up posters in nilai for an upcoming event .. so word went out to her when a friend (who was at the meeting) asked bout her boyfriend. so she wasn't happy bout it. and things went big after adding more fire . and i miraculously message her saying that it wasnt a big deal. and she said that tho it seem normal to me , but to her it was like exposing bout her personal life to other people in the college. so she wasn't happy and now pissed at me.

so yeah .. like i say after adding more fire , now we're like arch enemies. we dun talk , we just ignore each other when we pass the corridor , we dun even look at each other in the eyes .. who knew such small things can be so big.

so ... yeah .. i learnt something ... never assume everyone is the same.

*magdeline*

We slept in greenhouses and we had giant dustbins for toilets.
Gopeng was awesome!
*gigantic smile*

Right, back to what I'm supposed to do. Blogging about human communication.

Having left off from the topic about listening, I shall now proceed to talking about non-verbal communication.
*smile* That, was a form of non-verbal communication.
"*tsk* *tsk* *tsk*" is what I hear from my mom each time when either one of us kids are at the computer.
*stare*, that is my dog's form of indicating that they want my food, which is in my hand.
All these are forms of non-verbal communication that happens around me, and with most people too. Just like what was said during our lecture, non-verbal communication is indeed important for communication. Even if we aren't able to make any sounds, we can still communicate through sign languages, hand signals and body language. Even the sounds that we make are considered as a form of non-verbal communication too. Just like what Yen Wan wrote in her blog post previously, her cousin's brother could communicate even though he was deaf and mute, which is a perfect example of non-verbal languageas deaf people do not talk like how we normally do. We normally take for granted the ability to talk that was given to us, though I'm sure that when we get sore throat or even laryngitis for some, we tend to appreciate our voices slightly more after that (though after a few days we'll probably wound up taking it for granted again).
But, have you ever given thought to what would happen if you actually DID lose your voice? You would have to rely completely on non-verbal communication then. Touching, body language, hand gestures, sound effects and so on, your life would pretty much become like the game charades. But, if you actually sat down to think, you would find that there are many living beings that actually can't talk like us humans. Humans are the only beings that are able to talk, with the occasional parrots and the so-called genius animals that can somehow bark out "rrroneerrr" and their owners become deliriously happy because their dog managed to "speak"; I find that creepy though, dogs just aren't meant to talk. The whole idea of animals being to talk like humans are just NOT something normal. Imagine if you woke up one morning and your dog could talk:
Dog: "Ruff! Morning master! I think I have a tick stuck up my ass!"
Master: "......"
I would very much prefer dogs that just barked and whined like normal dogs. Thank you very much.

Now that I'm on the topic of dogs and animals, do you realize that all animals do not TALK? They use non-verbal communication. Throughout their whole lives! All 15 years for dogs and all 14 years for cats averagely, they use non-verbal language for the whole period when they are alive. Take for example my dogs, Gypsy and Kuro. Whenever they know that I have food (I don't know how they know, but they just KNOW), they'll look at me with their heart-melting eyes and plop their asses on the floor instantly, while staring at me with the message :"GIVE ME FOOD!!!" Oh yes, I can read my dogs' non-verbal communication perfectly. If they were to turn their butts towards me and stare at me, then at their butt, it would mean that they want their backs scratched because it's itchy, and they'll stay that way till I give them a scratch. If they were to see me at the doorway, my dogs would stare at me, then pass me at the couch, which would mean they want to go into the house to jump and sleep on the couch, if you were not to let them in, they would start making such a racket outside that I have to give them eggs to shut them up. Wow, and I just realized something else about non-verbal communication. It can be extremely monopolizing, just like how my dogs are manipulating me.
Holy.
Crap.

Thought of Human Communication so far : I have no idea on what to do for persuasive speaking. *insert sarcasm* a mouse that squeaks mabye. Hah.
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 2122

blog skin will vary

as said in the tittle .. the blog skin will vary this few days .. im trying out different skins until i find a suitable one for comments and chat boxes and songs if possible ! so bear with it ya !

*magdeline*

laziness

okay, im sorry for abandoning this blog .. so today , we did this group work for its our group turn .. and we did pictogram ... it was fun .. but at the same time i was thinking , when other group was trying to distract the other group , distraction can cause misunderstanding and messages cannot be conveyed .. or we choose to listen to what others have to say as well ?

some people , choose not to hear what they do not want to hear .. some people hear for the sake of hearing .. some just blurly listen and pretend to understand .. so why is actually hearing and listening important if so many people choose to abide the talkers ..

sometimes , listening can solve problems .. sometimes , it makes things worse .. i don't actually really knkow what im trying to say here , but yeah .. listening ... and conveying message can sometimes be wrong .. not to mention if there's lots of external disturbances ..

*magdeline*

what kind of people always show non-verbal communication??

SO...what do you think??
You can say everybody..BUT my answer is dumb and deaf people....the meaning "dumb" here, do not mean people who is stupid or slow to learn new things... Here, it means unable to speak because of hereditary deafness.
Ok, let's me talk about dumb and deaf people using my own experience! Of course, i don't dumb and deaf before.

My cousin's brother, he is elder than me. He is innate dumb and deaf, of course, it's a bit sad! Besides, his sister's, she is same age with me, but her thinking skills is slower. I'm not look down upon her, i just feel sad about that, my cousin's brother and his sister's in this situation. Even though they face this kind of problems, but they don't give up themselves. They still make their lives more interesting. In addition, his parent's that mean my aunt and uncle, two of them know to show sign language, it 's also can symbol it as a non-verbal communication. Their non-verbal communication sign language is really confused to me....But then, my cousin's brother is clever. Why i say that?? Usually his parents don't give him go out alone, therefore, he didn't how to take bus or teksi from where to where. One day, he went out alone without telling his parents. He can take bus from his house to Seremban and he can came back by his own. Therefore, i really proud of him that he is brave and clever unless he can't talk and hear. Yet, he also a bit wrong is he didn't tell his parents.

So, people who is dumb and deaf using sign language , it also can be known as non-verbal communication. Besides, he or she also has expressed his or her feelings on the face. Non-verbal language can express many meaning based on how we think or interpret it, different people will mention sometimes differently. That's all!! :)

Written by,
Chong Yen Wan
(3/06/09) (Wed)

Listen!

Back to last few year....

When i was standard five, one of my dad's friends, she came from china. My dad knew her because my dad's office at sungai wang so they knew each other at that time. When she came into the office, she asked for something. At that time, she was talking chinese but i couldn't understand what she was talking about. This is because i 'm not familiar with her chinese slang. Therefore, i tried hard to listen and understand it.

Another day, an foreign country people came in my dad's office and i serve them. At that time, i'm not good in english therefore my brother helped me to serve them. I really didn't know what they was talking about, i really felt shame.

NOW... I understand how they talk and what are their slang. SO....listen and understand are really important.
Normally, our ear is very curious. why?? This is because our ear used to hear and listen many things such as people like to listen gossip, listen what teacher are teaching and etc.

Listening really plays a big roles in our daily life. Everything we do, first, we must listen instructions and take action. For instance, if you participate a competition, you must listen and obey the competition rules,therefore you have the chance to win. If you don't listen the rules, you may disqualifed from the competition.


Written by
Chong Yen Wan
30/05/09 (SAT)

Again, this post shall be on listening, as we haven't had another class on a different topic yet. *big smile*

Back to the point of listening. Listening was something that most of us acquire when we understand things, that's how we generally understanf what people talk about. Even little kids understand, when you tell them to do this, they'll listen to you and do it, unless of course, they WON'T listen to you, because they're stubborn or so, then they won't LISTEN to you, which could get frustrating at times. Admit it, it IS irritating when people don't listen to what you say, whether they're kids or peers your age or full-grown adults, for example : My senior from church was so intent on getting me to go for this Friendship Connection Saturday that is to be held tomorrow, and I personally told him that I had an assignment and a presentation to prepare for by this week, therefore I would be busy. BUT, somehow, he wasn't really listening and taking in what I was saying about being busy and kept insisting that I will definitely have time to do it and that I should put more important things in front, which was this event. When I didn't answer him, he jumped to his own conclusion that I wanted to spend more time with my own friends and I was neglecting the event. He finally shut upped and back down after I raised my voice. The lesson? When people tell you something, LISTEN and don't just fabricate your own story.

Anyways, back to what I was talking about, when I was younger and used to watch movies, I never really listened to what they talk about, I just relied on my reading skills (as, *ahem, self-praise* my reading skills were superb as a kid, but of course, everything, every skill you had detiorates as you grow older, as most adults say :"When I was YOUNGER, I could run around the whole field 100 times." or "When I was younger, I could play netball, run the track, score in every single paper, do very well academically and excel at msot co-curiculum activities [girl scout, boy scout, and every other scout you can find in the world] ), but as i grew older and made more friends which equaled to more movies, I was taught how to listen to the movie while watching rather than reading the subtitles of the movie, which was what I frequently did while watching cantonese series as a didn't understand cantonese, but I could understand malay. Eventually, I learnt how to pick up this skill and I don't have to look at the subtitles anymore. Yip-dee-doo. (My cantonese still sucks though, I can just understand it, which is fairly well for me, who learned it through watching cantonese dramas *smileee*)

Thought of Human Communication so far : Rat Race, I have watched today :D
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 2243

Listening to somethings plays an important roles in our lives!

Listening and hearing are very different,means that hearing is not using the brain to interpret what he or she says to us wheareas listening is really listen carefully and interpret what he or she says about.

When I was primary school, I like to play as a teacher because I thought that teacher was such a fun job to do. Therefore, when I was small, I love to teach others and holded can. At that time, I knew that teacher is always holding a can to beat the naughty students so that the students will listen to teacher.>>>LISTENING means understand!LIsten to teachers also can related to understand.

Besides, I love to listen to music espeacially classical music.But then, I also listen english songs. I have a habit, that is, when I listen to music, I'll listen it carefully and write down on a piece of paper and understand it. This type of practice will also help me to improve my listening and understanding skills.If you are poor listeners, you can try it, I think it is useful. This practice is useful to me because I sometimes don't understand and not listen clearly what others talking about. Problem I don't understand because I'm not really good in english.Then, somebody speak too fast,therefore, I can't get it.

LISTENING really plays a big roles in our lives. Listening to me, it is quite a hard in my life because I'm not always paying attention when others are talking. Otherwise, that is, they use some difficult words so that I dont really understand. Therefore, my friends, forgive me that I ask the same questions again and be patient a bit to me.


Written by
Chong Yen Wan(26/05/09)Tuesday

Hearing, is what we do everyday, unconsiously.
Listening, however, is not something we do unconsiously everyday. Unless, of course, you don't KNOW that you're listening because you don't KNOW about listening, but of course, most people DO know that they're listening.
When you're sick, you don't hear very well, like how I'm feeling now. What sick people feel and hear are completely different from what someone perfectly healthy hears. A sick person listens to his or her body's needs and wants, to put it out in a technical sort of way. A sick person can only hear his or her body going "I want to sleep NOW." or "I'm so tired, let me just flop down onto the bed.". And actually, I'm not really listening to my body now, but I know perfectly well what it's saying, "I want to go to the washroom NOW!!!"
From what I see, listening to our body is just like how we take critism or listen to our paerents, when they tell us something we don't want to hear, like telling us we did a bad job or asking us to study, we'll naturally try to shut them out. Truth to be told, how many of us has ALWAYS followed our parents advice and orders or taken critisms without that evil thought in the head saying "Yeesh, yaada, yaada, yaada, i know, you don't HAVE to tell me."? Nobody, I'm sure. All of us have this rebellious nature in us to rebel in some way or another, openly or in our own heads. It might be my own perception, but still, I'm guessing it's true for most. For example, a smoker would definitely know that his or her body would tell him or her to quit smoking as it knows what smoking can do to his or her body with frequent smoking, but the smoker would smoke, regardless of his or her own's body advice, due to peer pressure or just that rebellious nature telling him or her to DO IT. However, when someone tells us something that we WANT to hear, for example, "Hey! You did a good job!" or "Come, lets go eat some ice-cream!"(random yes, but this is just for an example. Ice-cream is good!!!), we'll naturally listen to them. It's human nature! We listen to what we WANT to hear, not what we DON'T want to listen to.
Hmm, after critisizing humans and well, myself so much, i guess I'll just listen to my body now and go to the toilet. *big smile*


Thought of Human Communication so far : This is irrelavent, but I am feeling fuzzy from the air-con during human communication class.
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 1513

communicating

it's just a random thought in my head.

i mean we learn that communication can be learnt. but yet, why do people still misunderstand ? why do people suddenly lost topic to say ? why aren't everyone talking to everyone ? why parents can't communicate with their child (vice-versa) ?

is this now about communication or feelings ?

sometimes i feel it is very very hard to communicate with certain people .

and also , is perception part of judging ? i written this in my own blog but didn't really have the gut to write here. i mean , we always categorize people. thru age , looks , size , race and all.

we play around with our thoughts and emotions as well. why ?

there's so many why's in my head that i can't identify.

leave some comments. thanks

*magdeline*

Language...

"Gar......." this is the things baby like to do, CRYING!

I really love to play with baby . Why I love baby ? This is because when I was small, I think about 12 years old, my parent's close friend took her baby came to my house and called my mom helped her to take care of her baby. Due to her parent had emergengy things to do so my mom helped her to take care a day. Then, I played with the baby and I do somethings silly to her, she will laugh and very happy. At that time, I knew that baby was really simple and easy to make baby happy, of course also good in crying. Besides, I played with until afternoon, she suddenly cried I know happened to her. Therefore, I quickly hug her and told my mom. Then, my mom said that whether she was hungry or urine in the diaper made her comfortable, so she will suddenly cried. I quickly check her diaper and there was nothing on it. Then, I realised that she must be hungry. My mom quickly make half bottle of milk to give her. And I told her that my mom was making for you. After that, she stopped crying. I fed her to drink milk and when she was drinking the milk, she cried again. I was so nervous why she cried again. Then, my mom said that " I think she has to sleep now so she cried". My mom hugged her and made her sleep and I stood beside my mom and saw her sleep. The baby is really cute and a bit naughty. Yet, babies to me is very nice and make me feel comfortable.

Moreover, I knew that when babies cry, they will somethings uncomfortble to them so they will cry because at that stage they still don't know how to speak yet. BABY LANGUAGE is using "crying" to express their feeling. In my opinion, the way they give respond and show their feeling are cute, funning and I know that baby won't lie.
I know that some people don't like baby because they think that baby is irritated and they always cry. This types of people is that they still don't know the advantages of baby.

Written by
Chong Yen Wan (23/05/09) Saturday

lyrics all gone wrong !

read the subtitles !

touch my body


we belong together


*magdeline*

To get the older dog, Gypsy to play with him, Kuro will first crouch down, arch his hind high up in the air, swish his tail like how a cat swishes its tail when it sees it's prey, and go:

"Rrrrrrrr, Arf! Arf! Arf! Rrrnnngau."

Gypsy, of course, being the older, wiser dog will just eyeball him and give him the look, all while lying on the floor with her front paws crossed.

And well, Kuro is not one dog to just give up just like that, in fact he's quite persistent, therefore, when barking doesn't work, he'll proceed to phase 2: snapping Gypsy's tail.

Now, Gypsy's one of those dogs that doesn't like getting her behind touched by anyone but herself, even I'm not allowed to touch her tail, and once she's provoked, she will rush at you and snap you while barking with that high-pitched bark whenever someone probes that tail of hers:

"RAF! RAF! RAF!"

Kuro doesn't give up at that, he'll just keep on doing what he does until Gypsy actually gets up and chases him around the yard, which, will probably end up with them looking like the picture below.

Kuro Vs. Gypsy

The scene above is just how my dogs communicate with each other (even though it's not peaceful communication, but still, communication). Language between dogs are fairly simple I must say, with barking while wagging their tail meaning that they're happy, whining and having their ears pulled to the back means they're afraid, or having the wide-eyed eyeball dog with it's tongue hanging lopsidedly from their mouth look which gives the impression that they've got a nut loose somewhere in their head.

One of the many reasons why I like the way my dogs communicate is that they are very frank with their language, always straight to the point, and the message is CLEAR. If they want to take your bone away from you, like how Kuro tries to snatch Gypsy's bone away every time but with little success, they just snatch it, no sneaky advances like what we human do when we try to twist and turn our words, using evasive language like equivocation, and inserting their power into their way of speaking, like how my mom gives us the glare that my dogs cringe from while having a smile on her face and talks to her acquaintances whenever we accidentally embarrass her in public. AND, they never have problems with their pronunciation, not like they could ever have but, still, clear and straightforward.

A few years back, when my grandmother tried to pick up some English, she started off with one of the few words that we would normally use at home, guava, as during that period of time, it so happened that my mom went on a craze with the guavas, buying guavas every week whenever she went to the morning market. In the end, she ended up pronouncing guava as 'guagua'. Orange as 'olen', and my personal favourite Princess as 'insect' (We ended up changing her name to Gypsy, as how she's known now). This, we couldn't blame her, considering her upbringing as she never did have education, being born in the 1930's, girls weren't allowed to study during then as they were expected to stay home and learn how to cook and take care of the family. But still, my grandmother can converse in most of the Chinese dialects like Mandarin, Hokkien, Teochew, Cantonese, Hokkien, Hainan and of course, Malay. Now that I list it out, it seems that she can speak more languages than me!

p.s. : It's okay Magdeline! There's no need for you to change the blog layout :) But doesn't Adam feel like this blog's a very girly blog to blog in? Teehee.

Thought of Human Communication so far : Language is a fun thing to interpret.

This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 1412.

angel

sorry for still not being able to change to layout .. i'll change it asap for now i'm in the cyber cafe ..

alrighty . so there's this artist (kate voegele) that i love so so much and this is her new song which i feel rather meaningful

angel lyrics - kate voegele
I've said it once and I'll say it again.
I've got something hanging over my head.
I was laying on your shoulder
Perfectly content.
Until you told me all over again.

I aint got no sob story to read.
But just like everyone else
I'm living this life.
And you don't need to win me over.
And there aint no other side.
To shuffle me from.
I belong where I decide.
But you say...

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down
.We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

Well I suppose you think I'm so flattered to hear
That I'm the whisper conscience in your ear.
Yeah, and that's exactly the reason that I'll never fit in here
Well nothing's ever that blackand white, my dear.
Cuz you say...

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down.
We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

I'm not your angel darling.
I'm not your angel darling.
I am never gonna be.
I'm not your angel darling.
I'm not your angel darling.
I am never gonna be.

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down.
We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down.
We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

url : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pj57MHXJAXo

*magdeline*

Meaning rest in people not in words..

JUST like the word " surf " has already have 3 meanings. "Surf" can be surf the internet, to ride on the surfboard as sport and the foam made as waves break on rocks or the shore. Therefore, we must use the right word at the correct time. Otherwise, it'll become a laughing things.Besides, the way of pronoun words is really important. I watched a movie "Faulty Tower" last 2 years, this movies was really funny because the bellboys came from another country,so he is not good in English. Then, he creates many funny words and makes the customers feel embarrassed. You can try and watch this movie!

Furthermore, I watched a funny video clip talked about a chinese and an indian do business together. The Chinese girl speak English just like from Chinese translate to English, can also say it is a broken english. For the indian girl, her speaking style is similar to the Chinese girl, just like translate her own language to english. Moreover, they don't pronoun some words correctly, so it seem funning to all of us. And both of them are Malaysian, traditional of Malaysian speaking styles is put "LA", "LO" and etc, at the behind of the sentences.

Other than sharing about meaning of words, I would like to share about that I went for a camp in Genting. This camp was quite memorable to me because it was really different compare to school camp. Of course, it divided into groups and each groups must think about a moto for the groups and presented to all people. Then, the organiser also planned many others games to give us play. In one round, it's the time to comments about the group members and they always using better word to comments to others, just like I learn in Human Com. class,high context cultures value language as a way to maintain social harmony and won't hurt others. For instance, "You can do it better next time!"In that time, I learn that think before say is important,otherwise, many people will get hurt everytime.


Written by
Chong Yen Wan (19/05/09) Tuesday

Perception, as defined, is the process of noticing, organizing and interpreting data about people, events, activities and situation.

Look at this dog, and tell me what do you think of it.
Timid? Afraid? A coward, even?
In actual fact, this is probably the naughtiest dog i know on earth. His name is Kuro and he is my dog. He loves jumping onto us and pushing us down; he loves stealing Gypsy's (my other dog) food; he love biting her tail fur, causing her once bushy and furry tail to be short and un-furry.
Impression, is important, especially the first impression. The dog above gave you the impression that he's a timid dog (as a first impression), but if you were to look past that first impression, you would find that he's an unbelievably naughty and mischievous dog.

For example, yesterday, C2AGE 2009(Cosplay, Comic, Anime and Games Exhibition) was held at HELP University College. For the opening event, we had performances and an opening ceremony which was conducted by the Japanese ambassador and the appearance of Animax host Hannah Tan. The opening performance would be how the participants of the event would perceive this event as good, bad or just average. Like some of the participants who arrived early just to get the Gundam model, they hung around for nearly 2 hours before the opening ceremony was conducted, and when asked, they said they were bored and the opening ceremony was just average. Whereas when those who arrived just slightly before the ceremony, they said that the opening ceremony wasn't bad, above average even as they hadn't had to hang around waiting for it to start. This is an example of how perception plays a part in our everyday lives.

'The first impression is a lasting impression' , this line is indeed true. If you were to see someone acting immaturely, you would probably perceive him or her as a spoilt and pampered kid who always gets his or her own way. I still remember the first day I met my best friend, Elle. My first impression when i saw her was that she was a loud and sophisticated girl, mabye even a little snobbish. During the time then, we only played ice and fire as she was my friend's friend, so i didn't get any chance then to know her better. The next year, I was placed in the same class as her and the teacher put her in front of my seat. For the first week, we still kept our distance and just talked normally and kept our relationship as "just friends". Later on in the month, we found out that we were pretty simillar in ways that we never knew, we shared simillar taste in music, fashion, teachers and even food. We had more chances to get to know each other and soon after that, we became best friends. By then, I had already shedded my first impression of her and had gotten to know her from scratch. This is to say that first impressions CAN be thrown away, IF you take that chance to get to know the person better. Still, that doesn't mean you should decide to give everyone a bad impression by giving everybody the cold shoulder and keep your distance from them and tell yourself that they'll have a better chance to get to know you better and they'll like you then. By then, it'll be too late. That will be so so sad.

In conclusion : Make sure your first impression is a good one!

Thought of Human Communication so far : Acting is not what I'm best at......at all.
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and this is my second blog post on Human Communication.

Briefly talk about human communiction..!

Firstly, i thought that human communication is a reading subject and no many fun things to do.Yet, i realise that it is very interesting.I can use it on my daily life that what i have learned in human communication,for instance,using different ways of speaking to parents, friends, lecturer and etc. I can't speak some silly things to my parents.Besides,the way a person communiciate can also influence by culture. For example, malaysian like to put "LA" and "AH" at the behind of the conversation."HOW ARE YOU AH? FINE LA!".Furthermore,I have learned PERCEPTION in week 2. Perceptions simply define as everything happen around us include the 5 senses.In this chapter, I learned that reasons why we manage impressions are social rules and social roles and personal goals. Social rules means everythings we do also have rule and regulations, we should follow the rules otherwise we'll kill out from others whereas social roles is in different club, department or group, we will hold different position or chacrateristics such as president, group member and etc.
Today, I have a tutorial class in human communication.All my classmates are divived into 5 groups, so every groups had gotten a piece of paper and according the paper, all the team member have act something related that they got. In this process, i think that is quite different to act something without noise. In conclusion,I will try my best because i think i'm not really good at communication and I don't know how to express my feeling.Now,I will stop at here..


14 MAY 2009 (Thrusday)
Written by Chong Yen Wan

I logged onto the blog yesterday, it was purple.
I logged onto the blog TODAY, it was pink.
Kill me now, for I am blogging in a pink blog.
Hallelujah.

Anyways, about human communication, as this is supposed to be a blog on human communication which will be accessed and evaluated every week, what I think about human communication, more specifically, Introduction to Human Communication.
During the first lecture of Human Communication, all of us in the class introduced others, rather than introducing themselves, which was a change from the usual ice-breaking as we had to interview others to find out about them so we could introduce them to the whole class. My subject was Rui Qi, who was in her fourth semester, and the reason why she was taking human communication was to gain confidence and learn how to communicate more professionally as she was generally a pretty shy girl.
To gain confidence and to learn how to speak more professionally, was the main reason why most of the students in our class chose human communication. Though some took up this subject just for fun, right Magdeline? *smile!* Little did I know that this course I was taking was actually related to Psychology. All along, I thought that Intoduction to Human Communication was related to well, talking? Related to Mass Communication even. It is related to Mass communication, kind of, in my opinion, because it teaches us how to talk and understand the need for human communication, which would be useful when dabbling in Mass Communication, which is what i had planned to do. So, either way, i thought that taking up Human Communication was a good choice, as I can see that talking will be what we'll do in the whole 13 till 14 weeks of Human Communication. Brilliant, plenty of times to train my public speaking skills...... and hopefully I don't completely make a fool of myself. I hate public speaking!!!
Human Communication lectures have so far been pretty fun, though i guess we haven't reached that dreaded week of assignments and public speaking which i really really dread, considering I tumble and fumble with my own words. Even though I have the whole script memorized and practised, I always somehow end up fumbling through the whole presentation. I had mental preperation, but the real thing was somehow always different from the real audience. So, SO FAR, it HAS been good, with us watching this movie called Hoodwinked to complete an exercise given as homework.

Thought of Human Communication so far : Yay, Human Comm is fun!

This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and this is my first blog post on Human Communication.

First Post :p

Okay , since i've just started this blog and created it , so i'll just start writting the first blog .

Since this blog is for my Human Communication lecture , i'll just brief through what i've learnt so far.

Last week , which was my first lecture , i learnt about what is communication and the types of communication and a few more . I learnt that communication is not just about talking but it is also a kind of necessity in our daily life . The type of communication that we are going through seperates as from other being . This is because our type of communication is symbolic such as abc's and 123's . Communication requires a feedback . We need a response from the person we are talking to or even from the crowd if we are in public .

Then to the part where i like the most in the 1st chapter . The misconceptions about communication.

1. communication doesn't require complete understanding
2. communication is not always a good thing
3. the meaning that we say lies in people but not in words
4. communication more is not always better
5. communication is not simple
6. communication will not solve problems. walk the talk

well , these are so far what i can remember . more updates to come . :)

*magdeline*