Listen!

Back to last few year....

When i was standard five, one of my dad's friends, she came from china. My dad knew her because my dad's office at sungai wang so they knew each other at that time. When she came into the office, she asked for something. At that time, she was talking chinese but i couldn't understand what she was talking about. This is because i 'm not familiar with her chinese slang. Therefore, i tried hard to listen and understand it.

Another day, an foreign country people came in my dad's office and i serve them. At that time, i'm not good in english therefore my brother helped me to serve them. I really didn't know what they was talking about, i really felt shame.

NOW... I understand how they talk and what are their slang. SO....listen and understand are really important.
Normally, our ear is very curious. why?? This is because our ear used to hear and listen many things such as people like to listen gossip, listen what teacher are teaching and etc.

Listening really plays a big roles in our daily life. Everything we do, first, we must listen instructions and take action. For instance, if you participate a competition, you must listen and obey the competition rules,therefore you have the chance to win. If you don't listen the rules, you may disqualifed from the competition.


Written by
Chong Yen Wan
30/05/09 (SAT)

Again, this post shall be on listening, as we haven't had another class on a different topic yet. *big smile*

Back to the point of listening. Listening was something that most of us acquire when we understand things, that's how we generally understanf what people talk about. Even little kids understand, when you tell them to do this, they'll listen to you and do it, unless of course, they WON'T listen to you, because they're stubborn or so, then they won't LISTEN to you, which could get frustrating at times. Admit it, it IS irritating when people don't listen to what you say, whether they're kids or peers your age or full-grown adults, for example : My senior from church was so intent on getting me to go for this Friendship Connection Saturday that is to be held tomorrow, and I personally told him that I had an assignment and a presentation to prepare for by this week, therefore I would be busy. BUT, somehow, he wasn't really listening and taking in what I was saying about being busy and kept insisting that I will definitely have time to do it and that I should put more important things in front, which was this event. When I didn't answer him, he jumped to his own conclusion that I wanted to spend more time with my own friends and I was neglecting the event. He finally shut upped and back down after I raised my voice. The lesson? When people tell you something, LISTEN and don't just fabricate your own story.

Anyways, back to what I was talking about, when I was younger and used to watch movies, I never really listened to what they talk about, I just relied on my reading skills (as, *ahem, self-praise* my reading skills were superb as a kid, but of course, everything, every skill you had detiorates as you grow older, as most adults say :"When I was YOUNGER, I could run around the whole field 100 times." or "When I was younger, I could play netball, run the track, score in every single paper, do very well academically and excel at msot co-curiculum activities [girl scout, boy scout, and every other scout you can find in the world] ), but as i grew older and made more friends which equaled to more movies, I was taught how to listen to the movie while watching rather than reading the subtitles of the movie, which was what I frequently did while watching cantonese series as a didn't understand cantonese, but I could understand malay. Eventually, I learnt how to pick up this skill and I don't have to look at the subtitles anymore. Yip-dee-doo. (My cantonese still sucks though, I can just understand it, which is fairly well for me, who learned it through watching cantonese dramas *smileee*)

Thought of Human Communication so far : Rat Race, I have watched today :D
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 2243

Listening to somethings plays an important roles in our lives!

Listening and hearing are very different,means that hearing is not using the brain to interpret what he or she says to us wheareas listening is really listen carefully and interpret what he or she says about.

When I was primary school, I like to play as a teacher because I thought that teacher was such a fun job to do. Therefore, when I was small, I love to teach others and holded can. At that time, I knew that teacher is always holding a can to beat the naughty students so that the students will listen to teacher.>>>LISTENING means understand!LIsten to teachers also can related to understand.

Besides, I love to listen to music espeacially classical music.But then, I also listen english songs. I have a habit, that is, when I listen to music, I'll listen it carefully and write down on a piece of paper and understand it. This type of practice will also help me to improve my listening and understanding skills.If you are poor listeners, you can try it, I think it is useful. This practice is useful to me because I sometimes don't understand and not listen clearly what others talking about. Problem I don't understand because I'm not really good in english.Then, somebody speak too fast,therefore, I can't get it.

LISTENING really plays a big roles in our lives. Listening to me, it is quite a hard in my life because I'm not always paying attention when others are talking. Otherwise, that is, they use some difficult words so that I dont really understand. Therefore, my friends, forgive me that I ask the same questions again and be patient a bit to me.


Written by
Chong Yen Wan(26/05/09)Tuesday

Hearing, is what we do everyday, unconsiously.
Listening, however, is not something we do unconsiously everyday. Unless, of course, you don't KNOW that you're listening because you don't KNOW about listening, but of course, most people DO know that they're listening.
When you're sick, you don't hear very well, like how I'm feeling now. What sick people feel and hear are completely different from what someone perfectly healthy hears. A sick person listens to his or her body's needs and wants, to put it out in a technical sort of way. A sick person can only hear his or her body going "I want to sleep NOW." or "I'm so tired, let me just flop down onto the bed.". And actually, I'm not really listening to my body now, but I know perfectly well what it's saying, "I want to go to the washroom NOW!!!"
From what I see, listening to our body is just like how we take critism or listen to our paerents, when they tell us something we don't want to hear, like telling us we did a bad job or asking us to study, we'll naturally try to shut them out. Truth to be told, how many of us has ALWAYS followed our parents advice and orders or taken critisms without that evil thought in the head saying "Yeesh, yaada, yaada, yaada, i know, you don't HAVE to tell me."? Nobody, I'm sure. All of us have this rebellious nature in us to rebel in some way or another, openly or in our own heads. It might be my own perception, but still, I'm guessing it's true for most. For example, a smoker would definitely know that his or her body would tell him or her to quit smoking as it knows what smoking can do to his or her body with frequent smoking, but the smoker would smoke, regardless of his or her own's body advice, due to peer pressure or just that rebellious nature telling him or her to DO IT. However, when someone tells us something that we WANT to hear, for example, "Hey! You did a good job!" or "Come, lets go eat some ice-cream!"(random yes, but this is just for an example. Ice-cream is good!!!), we'll naturally listen to them. It's human nature! We listen to what we WANT to hear, not what we DON'T want to listen to.
Hmm, after critisizing humans and well, myself so much, i guess I'll just listen to my body now and go to the toilet. *big smile*


Thought of Human Communication so far : This is irrelavent, but I am feeling fuzzy from the air-con during human communication class.
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 1513

communicating

it's just a random thought in my head.

i mean we learn that communication can be learnt. but yet, why do people still misunderstand ? why do people suddenly lost topic to say ? why aren't everyone talking to everyone ? why parents can't communicate with their child (vice-versa) ?

is this now about communication or feelings ?

sometimes i feel it is very very hard to communicate with certain people .

and also , is perception part of judging ? i written this in my own blog but didn't really have the gut to write here. i mean , we always categorize people. thru age , looks , size , race and all.

we play around with our thoughts and emotions as well. why ?

there's so many why's in my head that i can't identify.

leave some comments. thanks

*magdeline*

Language...

"Gar......." this is the things baby like to do, CRYING!

I really love to play with baby . Why I love baby ? This is because when I was small, I think about 12 years old, my parent's close friend took her baby came to my house and called my mom helped her to take care of her baby. Due to her parent had emergengy things to do so my mom helped her to take care a day. Then, I played with the baby and I do somethings silly to her, she will laugh and very happy. At that time, I knew that baby was really simple and easy to make baby happy, of course also good in crying. Besides, I played with until afternoon, she suddenly cried I know happened to her. Therefore, I quickly hug her and told my mom. Then, my mom said that whether she was hungry or urine in the diaper made her comfortable, so she will suddenly cried. I quickly check her diaper and there was nothing on it. Then, I realised that she must be hungry. My mom quickly make half bottle of milk to give her. And I told her that my mom was making for you. After that, she stopped crying. I fed her to drink milk and when she was drinking the milk, she cried again. I was so nervous why she cried again. Then, my mom said that " I think she has to sleep now so she cried". My mom hugged her and made her sleep and I stood beside my mom and saw her sleep. The baby is really cute and a bit naughty. Yet, babies to me is very nice and make me feel comfortable.

Moreover, I knew that when babies cry, they will somethings uncomfortble to them so they will cry because at that stage they still don't know how to speak yet. BABY LANGUAGE is using "crying" to express their feeling. In my opinion, the way they give respond and show their feeling are cute, funning and I know that baby won't lie.
I know that some people don't like baby because they think that baby is irritated and they always cry. This types of people is that they still don't know the advantages of baby.

Written by
Chong Yen Wan (23/05/09) Saturday

lyrics all gone wrong !

read the subtitles !

touch my body


we belong together


*magdeline*

To get the older dog, Gypsy to play with him, Kuro will first crouch down, arch his hind high up in the air, swish his tail like how a cat swishes its tail when it sees it's prey, and go:

"Rrrrrrrr, Arf! Arf! Arf! Rrrnnngau."

Gypsy, of course, being the older, wiser dog will just eyeball him and give him the look, all while lying on the floor with her front paws crossed.

And well, Kuro is not one dog to just give up just like that, in fact he's quite persistent, therefore, when barking doesn't work, he'll proceed to phase 2: snapping Gypsy's tail.

Now, Gypsy's one of those dogs that doesn't like getting her behind touched by anyone but herself, even I'm not allowed to touch her tail, and once she's provoked, she will rush at you and snap you while barking with that high-pitched bark whenever someone probes that tail of hers:

"RAF! RAF! RAF!"

Kuro doesn't give up at that, he'll just keep on doing what he does until Gypsy actually gets up and chases him around the yard, which, will probably end up with them looking like the picture below.

Kuro Vs. Gypsy

The scene above is just how my dogs communicate with each other (even though it's not peaceful communication, but still, communication). Language between dogs are fairly simple I must say, with barking while wagging their tail meaning that they're happy, whining and having their ears pulled to the back means they're afraid, or having the wide-eyed eyeball dog with it's tongue hanging lopsidedly from their mouth look which gives the impression that they've got a nut loose somewhere in their head.

One of the many reasons why I like the way my dogs communicate is that they are very frank with their language, always straight to the point, and the message is CLEAR. If they want to take your bone away from you, like how Kuro tries to snatch Gypsy's bone away every time but with little success, they just snatch it, no sneaky advances like what we human do when we try to twist and turn our words, using evasive language like equivocation, and inserting their power into their way of speaking, like how my mom gives us the glare that my dogs cringe from while having a smile on her face and talks to her acquaintances whenever we accidentally embarrass her in public. AND, they never have problems with their pronunciation, not like they could ever have but, still, clear and straightforward.

A few years back, when my grandmother tried to pick up some English, she started off with one of the few words that we would normally use at home, guava, as during that period of time, it so happened that my mom went on a craze with the guavas, buying guavas every week whenever she went to the morning market. In the end, she ended up pronouncing guava as 'guagua'. Orange as 'olen', and my personal favourite Princess as 'insect' (We ended up changing her name to Gypsy, as how she's known now). This, we couldn't blame her, considering her upbringing as she never did have education, being born in the 1930's, girls weren't allowed to study during then as they were expected to stay home and learn how to cook and take care of the family. But still, my grandmother can converse in most of the Chinese dialects like Mandarin, Hokkien, Teochew, Cantonese, Hokkien, Hainan and of course, Malay. Now that I list it out, it seems that she can speak more languages than me!

p.s. : It's okay Magdeline! There's no need for you to change the blog layout :) But doesn't Adam feel like this blog's a very girly blog to blog in? Teehee.

Thought of Human Communication so far : Language is a fun thing to interpret.

This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and the time now is 1412.

angel

sorry for still not being able to change to layout .. i'll change it asap for now i'm in the cyber cafe ..

alrighty . so there's this artist (kate voegele) that i love so so much and this is her new song which i feel rather meaningful

angel lyrics - kate voegele
I've said it once and I'll say it again.
I've got something hanging over my head.
I was laying on your shoulder
Perfectly content.
Until you told me all over again.

I aint got no sob story to read.
But just like everyone else
I'm living this life.
And you don't need to win me over.
And there aint no other side.
To shuffle me from.
I belong where I decide.
But you say...

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down
.We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

Well I suppose you think I'm so flattered to hear
That I'm the whisper conscience in your ear.
Yeah, and that's exactly the reason that I'll never fit in here
Well nothing's ever that blackand white, my dear.
Cuz you say...

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down.
We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

I'm not your angel darling.
I'm not your angel darling.
I am never gonna be.
I'm not your angel darling.
I'm not your angel darling.
I am never gonna be.

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down.
We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

We don't mess around.
You've got no freedom to come down.
We don't take angels from the sky.
Oh no, we don't mess around.
You're meant to be among the clouds cause your an angel.
But that's a lie. Uh oh oh oh.

url : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pj57MHXJAXo

*magdeline*

Meaning rest in people not in words..

JUST like the word " surf " has already have 3 meanings. "Surf" can be surf the internet, to ride on the surfboard as sport and the foam made as waves break on rocks or the shore. Therefore, we must use the right word at the correct time. Otherwise, it'll become a laughing things.Besides, the way of pronoun words is really important. I watched a movie "Faulty Tower" last 2 years, this movies was really funny because the bellboys came from another country,so he is not good in English. Then, he creates many funny words and makes the customers feel embarrassed. You can try and watch this movie!

Furthermore, I watched a funny video clip talked about a chinese and an indian do business together. The Chinese girl speak English just like from Chinese translate to English, can also say it is a broken english. For the indian girl, her speaking style is similar to the Chinese girl, just like translate her own language to english. Moreover, they don't pronoun some words correctly, so it seem funning to all of us. And both of them are Malaysian, traditional of Malaysian speaking styles is put "LA", "LO" and etc, at the behind of the sentences.

Other than sharing about meaning of words, I would like to share about that I went for a camp in Genting. This camp was quite memorable to me because it was really different compare to school camp. Of course, it divided into groups and each groups must think about a moto for the groups and presented to all people. Then, the organiser also planned many others games to give us play. In one round, it's the time to comments about the group members and they always using better word to comments to others, just like I learn in Human Com. class,high context cultures value language as a way to maintain social harmony and won't hurt others. For instance, "You can do it better next time!"In that time, I learn that think before say is important,otherwise, many people will get hurt everytime.


Written by
Chong Yen Wan (19/05/09) Tuesday

Perception, as defined, is the process of noticing, organizing and interpreting data about people, events, activities and situation.

Look at this dog, and tell me what do you think of it.
Timid? Afraid? A coward, even?
In actual fact, this is probably the naughtiest dog i know on earth. His name is Kuro and he is my dog. He loves jumping onto us and pushing us down; he loves stealing Gypsy's (my other dog) food; he love biting her tail fur, causing her once bushy and furry tail to be short and un-furry.
Impression, is important, especially the first impression. The dog above gave you the impression that he's a timid dog (as a first impression), but if you were to look past that first impression, you would find that he's an unbelievably naughty and mischievous dog.

For example, yesterday, C2AGE 2009(Cosplay, Comic, Anime and Games Exhibition) was held at HELP University College. For the opening event, we had performances and an opening ceremony which was conducted by the Japanese ambassador and the appearance of Animax host Hannah Tan. The opening performance would be how the participants of the event would perceive this event as good, bad or just average. Like some of the participants who arrived early just to get the Gundam model, they hung around for nearly 2 hours before the opening ceremony was conducted, and when asked, they said they were bored and the opening ceremony was just average. Whereas when those who arrived just slightly before the ceremony, they said that the opening ceremony wasn't bad, above average even as they hadn't had to hang around waiting for it to start. This is an example of how perception plays a part in our everyday lives.

'The first impression is a lasting impression' , this line is indeed true. If you were to see someone acting immaturely, you would probably perceive him or her as a spoilt and pampered kid who always gets his or her own way. I still remember the first day I met my best friend, Elle. My first impression when i saw her was that she was a loud and sophisticated girl, mabye even a little snobbish. During the time then, we only played ice and fire as she was my friend's friend, so i didn't get any chance then to know her better. The next year, I was placed in the same class as her and the teacher put her in front of my seat. For the first week, we still kept our distance and just talked normally and kept our relationship as "just friends". Later on in the month, we found out that we were pretty simillar in ways that we never knew, we shared simillar taste in music, fashion, teachers and even food. We had more chances to get to know each other and soon after that, we became best friends. By then, I had already shedded my first impression of her and had gotten to know her from scratch. This is to say that first impressions CAN be thrown away, IF you take that chance to get to know the person better. Still, that doesn't mean you should decide to give everyone a bad impression by giving everybody the cold shoulder and keep your distance from them and tell yourself that they'll have a better chance to get to know you better and they'll like you then. By then, it'll be too late. That will be so so sad.

In conclusion : Make sure your first impression is a good one!

Thought of Human Communication so far : Acting is not what I'm best at......at all.
This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and this is my second blog post on Human Communication.

Briefly talk about human communiction..!

Firstly, i thought that human communication is a reading subject and no many fun things to do.Yet, i realise that it is very interesting.I can use it on my daily life that what i have learned in human communication,for instance,using different ways of speaking to parents, friends, lecturer and etc. I can't speak some silly things to my parents.Besides,the way a person communiciate can also influence by culture. For example, malaysian like to put "LA" and "AH" at the behind of the conversation."HOW ARE YOU AH? FINE LA!".Furthermore,I have learned PERCEPTION in week 2. Perceptions simply define as everything happen around us include the 5 senses.In this chapter, I learned that reasons why we manage impressions are social rules and social roles and personal goals. Social rules means everythings we do also have rule and regulations, we should follow the rules otherwise we'll kill out from others whereas social roles is in different club, department or group, we will hold different position or chacrateristics such as president, group member and etc.
Today, I have a tutorial class in human communication.All my classmates are divived into 5 groups, so every groups had gotten a piece of paper and according the paper, all the team member have act something related that they got. In this process, i think that is quite different to act something without noise. In conclusion,I will try my best because i think i'm not really good at communication and I don't know how to express my feeling.Now,I will stop at here..


14 MAY 2009 (Thrusday)
Written by Chong Yen Wan

I logged onto the blog yesterday, it was purple.
I logged onto the blog TODAY, it was pink.
Kill me now, for I am blogging in a pink blog.
Hallelujah.

Anyways, about human communication, as this is supposed to be a blog on human communication which will be accessed and evaluated every week, what I think about human communication, more specifically, Introduction to Human Communication.
During the first lecture of Human Communication, all of us in the class introduced others, rather than introducing themselves, which was a change from the usual ice-breaking as we had to interview others to find out about them so we could introduce them to the whole class. My subject was Rui Qi, who was in her fourth semester, and the reason why she was taking human communication was to gain confidence and learn how to communicate more professionally as she was generally a pretty shy girl.
To gain confidence and to learn how to speak more professionally, was the main reason why most of the students in our class chose human communication. Though some took up this subject just for fun, right Magdeline? *smile!* Little did I know that this course I was taking was actually related to Psychology. All along, I thought that Intoduction to Human Communication was related to well, talking? Related to Mass Communication even. It is related to Mass communication, kind of, in my opinion, because it teaches us how to talk and understand the need for human communication, which would be useful when dabbling in Mass Communication, which is what i had planned to do. So, either way, i thought that taking up Human Communication was a good choice, as I can see that talking will be what we'll do in the whole 13 till 14 weeks of Human Communication. Brilliant, plenty of times to train my public speaking skills...... and hopefully I don't completely make a fool of myself. I hate public speaking!!!
Human Communication lectures have so far been pretty fun, though i guess we haven't reached that dreaded week of assignments and public speaking which i really really dread, considering I tumble and fumble with my own words. Even though I have the whole script memorized and practised, I always somehow end up fumbling through the whole presentation. I had mental preperation, but the real thing was somehow always different from the real audience. So, SO FAR, it HAS been good, with us watching this movie called Hoodwinked to complete an exercise given as homework.

Thought of Human Communication so far : Yay, Human Comm is fun!

This is Jenn (Diong Jenn Huen) and this is my first blog post on Human Communication.

First Post :p

Okay , since i've just started this blog and created it , so i'll just start writting the first blog .

Since this blog is for my Human Communication lecture , i'll just brief through what i've learnt so far.

Last week , which was my first lecture , i learnt about what is communication and the types of communication and a few more . I learnt that communication is not just about talking but it is also a kind of necessity in our daily life . The type of communication that we are going through seperates as from other being . This is because our type of communication is symbolic such as abc's and 123's . Communication requires a feedback . We need a response from the person we are talking to or even from the crowd if we are in public .

Then to the part where i like the most in the 1st chapter . The misconceptions about communication.

1. communication doesn't require complete understanding
2. communication is not always a good thing
3. the meaning that we say lies in people but not in words
4. communication more is not always better
5. communication is not simple
6. communication will not solve problems. walk the talk

well , these are so far what i can remember . more updates to come . :)

*magdeline*